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I Want an Invite, Even If the Answer is No

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One of my favorite bloggers, Helene, recently wrote a post on what is like to be the married ones. While I certainly can not relate to that, one of her comments did resonate with me,  “I want the invitation even if my answer is no.” I agree!  I am the kind of person who wants an invite even if you know my answer is going to be no.

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For example, last month I went to Florida and was gone for a long weekend.  One of my good friends, probably one of my best friends (but I’m not using that term any longer, more on that later) had a birthday brunch at a restaurant I introduced her to.  That Sunday I saw the photos pop up over the course of a few hours on my Instagram and Facebook and I was instantly sad.  Why wasn’t I invited? Granted, she new I was out of town and that I would not have been able to come, but still, I would have liked an invite.

I am not saying you had to send my a physical invite in the mail – although I do love snail mail – but an email, Facebook invite, or even a text would have sufficed.  So yes, I am the kind of person who:

– Wants an invite, even if I have to say no  

– Makes reservations on Open Table while walking into the restaurant 

– Gives money to talented musicians in the subway 

– Wants to be informed of a problem even if there is nothing I can do about it 

– Appreciates people who show up on time, or get in contact if they are running behind

– Sends thank you notes in the mail  

– Emails you if there is a broken link in your Rafflecopter 

These aren’t big things, just little quirks that make me, me.  I almost deleted this post twice while writing it because I did not want to seem like I was trying to pump myself up or talk about how I am a good person but I remembered, you are reading this because you want to get to know me and like my friend Whitney says, you need to be the Beyoncé of your own blog.  To sum it up, basically, I like to be informed, know what is going on and included.  Real life friends, take note!

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  3. Janna says

    I’m glad you posted it! I’m sure it made you feel better to get it off your chest 😉

  8. Kari @ The Kari Diaries says

    I think you’re dead on. To me, the invite isn’t about whether the person I’m inviting can actually make it. It’s not really about me; it’s about them. The invite lets that person know “hey, you’re my friend and [insert special event] wouldn’t feel complete without you there.” And that should be extended to whomever you want to be around on that day. So to me, you can tell me months before that you’re not coming and you’ll still get an invite because invite = you’re special to me. I mean, you wouldn’t invite someone to an event solely on the basis of them being available that day right? (Oh, hi, man that makes my turkey hero on Mondays and Wednesdays, I heard you’re off at 4 today, come to my party?!)

  10. Sabrina Nooruddin says

    Haha, I love this! Being honest with yourself is awesome! I gave out invitations to my engagement party last year and I had girls who were dating their boyfriends for 5+ years, and we obviously addressed the invitation to both of them. They would not let it go until they got their OWN invitation. Some people are picky about certain things, it’s part of their charm 🙂

    x. Sabrina | Simply Sabrina

  13. Abby says

    I totally agree… an invite is the kind thing to do and you should never assume another person’s answer ahead of time!

  15. Ellie says

    I’m with ya. Even if it’s a text saying, “MAN I wish you were here so we could go to that restaurant you introduced me to!!” …it’s the thought that counts, literally!

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